Create a meaningful resolution—and stick to it
Ah, it’s that time of year again…when we reflect on a year past and freshly commit to shiny new goals for the year ahead.
If you’re single or unemployed, it’s also the time of year you’re probably thinking “I swear, if I have to troll around dating and job sites for one more year, I’m gonna lose it.”
If you’ve already set a bold intention for 2014, something that will challenge you (without driving you mad) and improve your day-to-day existence, that’s fabulous—get to it.
If you’re one of those people who has picked something tame to lay down in conversations (you know, so there’s no pressure to actually accomplish it), let’s get back to the resolution drawing board.
This is the one time of year where you can operate as if you have a clean slate. It’s an idea we’ve socially agreed upon. After all, each of us wants to take a shot at doing things better.
So, what to do? Where to start? Here are a couple of ideas…
1) Set one personal goal and one professional goal. What is one thing you can do to enrich each of these areas? Get specific about what you want and how you will make it happen.
For example, if you want to cultivate more friends this year, think about what you need to do on a practical level—weekly, monthly, etc. Tip: set mini-goals that will gradually lead you towards achieving your big goals.
2) Set a goal for each area of your life. For example, here are the goals I’ve set:
CAREER: Blog regularly (twice a week). Write workshops and classes. Promote services. Start podcast or video series.
EMOTIONAL LIFE: Practice being vulnerable. Ask other people for help. Receive love and kindness from others. Give only when I don’t want anything back in return. Enjoy the essence of every moment (live in the present).
HEATH: Yoga and/or gym, 3 times a week. Ice skating, once a week. Meditate 2-3 times a week.
GIVING: Volunteer once a week mentoring youth.
You can see that I’ll need to get a bit more specific with some of the above (i.e. what does being vulnerable really look like in action?) and set more mini-goals, but you get the gist.
Really, any specific goal you commit too—big or small—and follow through with will have a positive impact on your life. Why? Because we like progress…it feels good to move forward and become better versions of ourselves. Get out of your holding pattern. Jump off of your plateau. Make yourself and your life the way you want. There is no freer thing.
In the words of Any Warhol, “They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.”
Let’s do it. Happy 2014.